BY
Charlize Kon
Lead Designer

Hype Issue #58

Published on

November 8, 2023

Amid our busy lives, there’s a simple joy waiting to be discovered: the solo date. Imagine sitting in a cosy cafe with a book and warm cup of coffee in your hands, just enjoying your own company.

Solo dates aren’t just about being by yourself; they’re about embracing the quiet moments and discovering the wonderful things about yourself.

This guide is designed for everyone, whether you’re new to solo dates or looking for fresh inspiration. Think of it as a friendly hand leading you through this experience, offering easy tips and fun ideas to make your solo date truly memorable.

1. Dress to Impress: Make It Special

I put on a fit that I’ve always wanted to try but never got the chance to. Photo by Charlize Kon.

One of the beautiful things about a solo date is that it’s entirely about you. Put on your favourite  outfit, the one that makes you feel confident and radiant. Embracing your personal style boosts your confidence and sets the tone for a fantastic day.

2. Cultivate Mindfulness: Savour Every Moment

I decided to unplug my earpiece and put my phone on ‘Do Not Disturb’ mode so that I could fully immerse myself in my surroundings and be present. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Engage in the world around you; notice the colours, smells, and sounds. Cultivating mindfulness deepens your experience, allowing you to savour every moment. It’s amazing how much more vibrant the world becomes when you are fully engaged in it.

3. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone: Visit a Cafe Alone

I visited Ceres Haus cafe alone and decided to read a book as the serene ambiance, combined with the solace of being engrossed in a book, allowed for a peaceful escape from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. Photo by Charlize Kon.

While the idea of dining alone might seem intimidating to many, it can actually be a liberating experience. Visit that charming cafe you’ve been eyeing, order your favourite brew, and enjoy your own company. A solo date is a chance to revel in the pleasure of solitude, a skill that, once mastered, becomes a cherished asset.

4. Treat Yourself: Indulge in Delights

I finally tried Ceres Haus’s signature Madeleines, which I had seen others raving over on social media, and they did not disappoint. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Solo dates are the perfect excuse for indulgence. Buy yourself a flower – a simple gesture that brings instant joy. When it comes to dining, don’t just settle; spoil yourself. Whether it’s a lavish meal at a fine restaurant or a dessert that delights your taste buds, treat your senses to something exquisite.

5. Get Active: Explore and Move

Instead of taking a cab, I chose to walk to most of my destinations which not only helped me to save some money, but also provided me with the opportunity to soak in the atmosphere of the town area surroundings. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Embrace the outdoors and explore your surroundings. Take a leisure walk instead of hopping into a cab. Exercise not only invigorates your body but also clears your mind. Engaging in physical activities adds a sense of achievement to your solo day, making it all the more rewarding.

6. Window Shop: Take Your Time

I decided to do some window shopping in one of the vintage clothing stores that has been on my ‘to-go’ list for the longest time. Photo by Charlize Kon.

I had fun shopping and exploring the unique clothing pieces they have in the shop. Photo by Charlize Kon.

One of the best things about a solo date is that you get to explore shops at your own pace. Window shopping isn’t about buying; it’s about appreciating craftsmanship, creativity, and aesthetics. It’s a form of visual meditation that allows you to enjoy beautiful things without the pressure to purchase.

7. Spend Time Reflecting: Journal and Listen

I decided to have my breakfast at Ya Kun Kaya Toast while journaling about things in my life that I’m grateful for. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Solo dates offer a unique opportunity for introspection. Consider bringing a journal along to jot down your thoughts, dreams, or even to doodle. Reflect on your life, your goals, and your aspirations. Alternatively, you can choose to listen to podcasts that inspire you. Taking time to ponder amid the serene atmosphere of your solo date can lead to valuable insights.

8. Pursue Your Passion: Engage in an Activity

One of my favourite pastimes is to explore neighbourhoods in Singapore. This time, I visited the vibrant Haji Lane. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Whether it’s drawing, reading, knitting, or any other hobby, bring your interests along. Taking part in an activity you love not only nurtures your creativity but also enriches your solo experience.

9. Immerse in Culture: Attend Cultural Events

I visited the Liu Kuo-sung: Experimentation as Method exhibition at the National Gallery and I was so impressed by the artworks. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Immersing myself in Liu Kuo-sung’s detailed and intricate art pieces, which left me pondering over the meaning and effort behind each piece. Photo by Charlize Kon.

This gallery map helped me a lot in navigating around the huge National Gallery. Photo by Charlize Kon.

Participate in the cultural fabric of your city. Attend concerts, theatre  performances, or art exhibitions. Immersing yourself in art not only broadens your horizons but also provides an opportunity for you to connect with like-minded individuals. Shared experiences in the realm of culture often lead to meaningful connections, like how I managed to hold an interesting conversation with one of the museum’s staff on the artist’s unique portrayal of art.

These moments of self-indulgence, mindfulness, and exploration are not simply solitary adventures; they are also a celebration of your uniqueness. So, dear reader, let these steps be your guide to a fulfilling solo date. Embrace your independence, relish your company, and let your solo dates become cherished chapters in the beautiful story of your life.